In our time many couples do not say to each other in a respectful manner. They think that respectable words reduce the intimacy of mutual relationship. But in reality if they say to each other in respectable words, they come to possess the heart to honor the other. Then, one comes to consider the other in words instead of directing and commanding words. This does not apply only to couples but also to everyone. If you humble yourself and honor anyone, you will possess the heart of service as said in Hebrews 10:24, "Let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds."